Lets talk about masculinity….
What defines us males as proper men? Is it the way we walk, speak, act or just because we have a dick?…
Me myself am a bit late to the party and have been told that I can come across as possessive, arrogant and self centred but under no circumstances have I or will I pass these on to my son’s or let my daughter think this is acceptable behaviour from the opposite sex… I know us MEN have to portray that we are supposed to be the MAN and always be the biggest one, i say fuck that we are living in a new world where everything is equal and should be in all aspects, but there is still a few lacking this, if i put on a suit and tie does that mean am a man of power or just a flush prick? Give me my slouchies and a t-shirt and am happy, the way we act and come across to other people shouldn’t be questioned should it? I don’t go to the gym or worry about having bigger muscles than the guy who works out 24/7 and spends all his time worrying about his image but i don’t judge him he’s doing what he loves so why should it be different for the ones that don’t?.
I also ain’t afraid to show how am feeling or how upset i am about something does that make me less of a man? How many times can you say you haven’t been crying just because your male and for heavens sake man pull yourself together if you had bad news would you hold it in or let it out? I hope not as I would always be a shoulder for my boys to lean on if they needed it or an ear to listen if they have any problems which am sure there will be a few they wouldn’t feel like they can share with there mum but I would tell them that I would have to discuss anything they felt they couldn’t say to mum, that I would as parenting is hard but working together is the main foundation…
Now as for our daughter I hope she grows up to be a strong independent young lady who takes no shit from any man and always stands her ground to be equal, as if our son’s stopped in the middle of the street to give us a cuddle would we take a minute to think of who’s watching? who’s going to see this? all whilst our son is standing there waiting on the man he looks up to responding to his needs and wants….Now take a minute if it was your daughter would you even consider those choices?? NOOOOO i very much doubt you did……..
I just hope this generation we are bringing up is far more better than the one we live in right now with no shame and treats everyone as equal no matter what the background, race, religion, sex, i hope they see the person for who they are and that’s enough, i wish for plenty laughter, less insecurities and embrace this beautiful thing we call life,
Until next time thanks folks